9 of interesting ideas that can change your thinking

This is a heartfelt article tough coach coach Mark Chernoff. We believe that it is - a great impetus to what to start to think differently. Remember, you - what you think!

"This morning, when passed about five years since the death of my husband, my door knocked beautiful couple and their three children. The man smiled and said, "Your husband was my heart donor. He saved my life. Every day I pray for him and I think about you. Thank!"".

This is a quote from a letter I received from a reader by the name of Colin. She was able to realize that earlier she simply could not see the positive side of her husband's death, but now I saw them in their doors. "It is not necessary to simplify the situation, just look at it from the other side. I felt a kind of relief, in which a piece of my broken heart has healed. "

And the truth is, it happens. Despite the fact that the experience is unique, Colin, is extreme, even slightly, in certain moments of life, he may become for us a great reminder that you need to change your way of thinking. Personally, I had to repeatedly remind ourselves about this in recent years. And today I want to share some of my thoughts with you.

1. Everything that happens, helps you to grow, even if unobtrusive Now

Circumstances will always have to change, guide and improve. Sometimes they are able to knock down firmly. It is possible for everything that could possibly fall, crashing to the fact. At such moments arise the feeling that you have this funnel tightens forever. But this is not the case. Feeling the desire to get away from it all, remember that some things that seem at first glance wrong, in fact, are correct. Sometimes, to achieve the best, you need to first overcome the worst. Your hidden potential can be manifested precisely when the greatest difficulties in life. Thus, when faced with their greatest challenge, you can unexpectedly open up a whole new way to achieve the desired.

2. It is normal that people and situations go out of your life

Over time, things may seem to you other than the above, as well as you feel is no longer such as years ago. If you are used to something like that it does not mean that your tastes will be the same in the future. If you loved before, that does not mean that you have to love one person all my life, even when it does not feel any sense. Be loyal to yourself. Allow yourself to change, to grow, to challenge the fact of who you once were, as previously thought. The only thing you need to be sure - is questionable. Only if there is no doubt you will be able to look at the situation in different angles, not stagnate, but on the contrary, to change.

3. Hard changes are inevitable

Both growth and change is not painless. But, after all, nothing brings as much pain as stagnation in the situation that you trouble. You are not the ones who were a year ago, a month ago or even a week ago. You always grow. Life experience can not be stopped. That is life. It will take courage to recognize that something needs to be changed, but even more courage is required to take responsibility for making changes. For this you need a lot of effort, but the result is worth it.

4. Anyone who complains the most, reaching the lowest

It is always better to try to do something and fail than attempt to do nothing and succeed. In fact, if you lose - it's not the end, and the end comes when, instead of acting, you just start to complain. If you are into something you believe, keep trying. Do not let the failures of the past overshadow your future. Regardless of how events will unfold, remember that true happiness you will gain only when stop complaining. Try to be thankful for all of life's problems, regarding them as an invaluable experience.

5. Your happiness depends on your way of thinking,

Your mind - this is your battlefield. It is the abode of unresolved conflicts. This is the place where all your experiences, beliefs and fears, which have not been fulfilled. But if you let these thoughts continue to be in your head, they will eventually be able to take away your peace, joy, and finally, life. This can lead to a nervous breakdown, depression. Remember, you - what you think. You can not change anything if you do not revise their views. A beautiful day begins with positive thinking. Just waking up, take a moment for joy, because you are alive and well. Over time you realize that your life - it's a blessing.

6. You have the innate ability to change someone's fate

Do not lose this gift. Please. Be real. Be important for the world. To tell the truth, the purpose of life is not a personal happiness. In fact, you have to be helpful, compassionate and good, noble, you have to create a life that would adequately distinguished from mere existence in its own bubble. Move in this direction, which will allow you to leave this world a little better than you met him at the moment of birth.

7. You can best serve themselves and others by giving yourself what you need to

That's right, your needs are more important than you can imagine. Do not ignore them. Sometimes you have to do what's best for you and your life, not just what seems best for everyone else. Say to yourself right now that you will no longer seek love, respect and attention surrounding his person. Now look in the mirror and tell her reflection: "I love you, and from now on I will no longer do!" The truth is that when we have self-respect, when we love ourselves, only if we open the path to happiness. And when we are happy, we become better friends, better family members and better lovers.

8. All those who meet us on the road, make a difference in our lives

We meet not ordinary people on their path of life. If you give them a chance, you will see that everyone has something amazing. They may or may not meet your expectations, but their presence is important. Some people may test you, some will be taught, and some will open up your best features. So be grateful for everything in my life. All without exception! Sometimes it can be difficult, but try to make every effort to be thankful even for being rude. After all the negative experience will be a reminder to those that teach you how not to be.

9. Not only will you feel lonely and strange

I used to think himself the odd man in the world. But then I realized that I must be some who feel the same among the billions of people that I am. Imagining such a person, I thought that now he probably thinks the same thing. Well, if you're reading this, then you now know that I exist and that I am just strange, like you. I often have to mentally deal with himself as probably you too. I, like you, care about many important things, just do it differently. And although some people do not understand us, we understand each other. Remember, you are not strange and lonely!

Postscript ...

I hope that today you will be a beautiful day, you will be dreaming boldly and confidently, that you do something that previously did not dare, you will be loved and will love themselves. I want you to accept the fact that the strength only increases by changes in thinking about the problems that you can not change. And most importantly, always be wise and sensible decision-making that will allow you to feel good about themselves and be an example to others.