7 things you need to understand in order to survive treason

When they learned about the change, it seems worse than it is now, feel is not going to. But the consequences of betrayal for a long time catching up with different problems: low self-esteem, inability to trust people, the desire to keep everything under control. If nothing is done, it will drag on for years, but by treachery can still be healed. Here's what you need to understand in order to re-learn how to live.

1. You could not stop it

infidelity victim goes through several stages, one of which - "What did I do wrong?". You try to understand where erred, which provoked a betrayal.

A reality that you have to put up - you could not stop infidelity. Wear sexier clothes, spend more time with your partner, stronger control it. It's not you decide to have sex with another person rather than to solve the problems in the relationship.

2. Will you stop trusting people at some time

First, the relationship will be disgusting to you. Later, when you decide that healed and ready to take in your life someone new, you will face the fact that you hard to trust people. This is normal. Give yourself time and do not think that it is forever.

Try not to carry their grievances to other relationships and not to start them with suspicion and inspections. The new guy does not have to pay for something that your last partner turned out to be a goat.

3. You can not prevent change in the future

The betrayal makes you wiser, but do not help to avoid infidelity in the future. You check your phone, spying on social networks, the constant questioning in the relationship arise from the fact that one partner thinks it can prevent infidelity. Believe me, if a person wants to lie, it will make everything that you do not recognize. It's hard to admit, but there is no medication for the prevention of cheating. Alter beautiful, smart, sexy, economic. Change those in bed ready for everything and owns 45 technicians oral sex. Change those who are always in control, and those who give complete freedom in a relationship.

This does not mean that you are bound to bump into again a betrayal. Just a relationship - it is always a risk, and it's worth it.

4. This is not necessarily to blame the other woman

Often we represent as cunning, charming mistress of a man seduced some unthinkable deception. If it is not, you will continue to have to be happy.

In fact, this is not necessarily so. Who will refuse to enter into an affair with a man not free, some do not care about other people's women and children, when a man shows interest in it. Both - a private matter. traitors lovers often lie about how they all bad in relationships or even hide their status.

It is important to understand that a man has his head on his shoulders. No one should take away from the family, from it you can only get away by yourself.

5. You do not need to change

Treason leaves a black hole in your self-esteem. After the break I want to lose weight, get a haircut, new wardrobe, go to the make-up courses. That he saw someone lost; to get rid of the shortcomings that led to the betrayal. It seems to change themselves, and more with you that will not happen.

In the desire to get better is not bad, even if the impetus for him was an insult. But by itself a betrayal not to say that you need to remake themselves. The only thing to change in this situation - Man.

6. You never really know why he did it

There is no reason for the betrayal that will suit you. It can be said that it was a drunken mistake, to say that you are no longer suited him, or nothing to explain. None of this will help you to understand his actions.

apostate themselves often can not explain why it is coming. Want to change, like the attention from other women, I was bored on a business trip. What is the difference, for no good reason betrayal.

7. You heal when you admit that you deserve this

When the time comes, you have to allow yourself to become happy. First, learn to love and take care of yourself again. Then learn to love others. You can not change anything in that situation, but you can still make your life better.

Are you faced with betrayal, and how could it survive?