Why care about others, how do you spend your money

Quite often, the title, which can be seen in glossy magazines: how much to spend on X star appearance. Yuri DUD made the phrase "How much do you spend?" Meme whole and sets it to each guest in his video blog. Why is it all so important to know how much you spend, and most importantly - why people condemn you for it?

Why are all so worried about how others spend their money

A friend of mine once condemned me for what I buy in the supermarket chips and popcorn before going to the cinema and not take them near cash registers. Not everyone can boast that money falls from the sky. Almost every experienced when squeezed and had to save something. However, each person has its own internal limit of allowable. For some, it is quite normal to unfasten each month 10,000 on hair care and level of Dita Von Teese stars have nothing against it, to paint their own paint from the supermarket. Condemn other people for their habits in the areas of finance, even given the name - moneyshaming.

Manisheyming can grow from concrete experiences in our lives, education, or none at all from what does not depend on. For example, scientists are saying that we are still quite close to the animal's behavior, so try to regularly compare their own habits with the habits surrounding "sostaynikov". Rational people realize that buying things they can not afford, but too want to impress. Like a big waste of means having the best status.

My friend works hard to pay back loans, and is proud of its efforts. But one day, she brought us to the feast, and some companies have started to make fun of the fact that the table is set "not rich". Despite the fact that on the table were inexpensive meals, they were delicious, and enough for everyone. And the guests with no respect condemned hostess. Sometimes it seems that it is a trifle. However, if you look at your social circle, you will find that all your friends are absolutely different wealth and attitude towards money.

How much should you spend on yourself

Everyone has their own opinion on how much money should be for a comfortable existence.

There are people who can easily pay for a trip to the islands twice a year and are only Uber Black. There are those who eat noodles budget, earning enough to secure a good plate of meat. Both categories are looking at each other with conviction: "He does not understand how to make money and how to spend."

Who is right? In fact, both are mistaken, believing that their life - the right way. There are only three golden rules to keep in mind:

1. Spend less than you earn

2. Know your costs

3. Do not start up in spending and debt as long as you will not have a clear plan

Instead of condemning people for the fact that someone lives "cheap", and someone unnecessarily wasted and lives at your expense, just think about how it would be wise for you and stop complaining. No one is identical to the situation with you, so do not compare yourself with anyone but itself.

Remember, having money does not make you an evil or greedy person. And here's how you spend it, can. You should not blame anyone for how he spends his money, simply because you do not agree or do not have such a sum to spend on themselves. Why not let the people enjoy life at his own discretion?

How to discuss money

Criticism should be resisted. Of course, if your neighbor or distant relative, which you rarely see, let snide comments about your new jacket should just keep quiet. But if the criticism comes from people from your close environment, from a partner or a parent, you have the right to speak and discuss the topic of money. During solve financial issues, many feel insecure, hear accusations and insults thrown back, but did not learn to talk about it. Ignore people who criticize your habits with regard to spending, can have unpleasant consequences for all.

By the unpleasant results of lead and the denial of the spouses to discuss the budget, and the fact that parents do not explain to children where money comes from, and that adults are too shy to consult with experts.

Separate the emotions from the facts. Stay calm and collected. The person does not accept your habits - Explain that you understand it. Say that you value his opinion, but still do not think, if you do something wrong.

Specify whether the interlocutor ulterior motives. Maybe you should spend less, so he got more?

However, if someone often jokes about your lifestyle, it does not mean that he is wrong. Especially if you hear the same thing from different people. Perhaps it makes sense to think about how your normal habits?