How to overcome themselves for 7 steps

In philosophy, there is such a thing as solipsism. Literally translated as "desire to believe in what you are - the center of the universe." That's how we used to feel in his youth; because it seems that all the most complex problems happen only here. But it is not difficulties or events, and your reaction to them. Knowing how this works, you can easily change your perspective on what is happening. With this we can help.

1. Your problems are not unique to

The most common paranoid: others live better than me. You have full debt, there is good work, little pay, and will soon have to move back in with their parents. People lie around, guys are disappointing, life is rolling downhill. And you know what? All people it happens in the same way.

Do your friends, brothers, sisters, even those with whom you just come across in the street - all the same. Yes, there are people who find a wonderful job in just a fifteen minutes after graduation. They have a large bedroom, and they can afford breakfast at Starbucks, but these people are very, very small. Just ignore them (or kill and entertain their place). The fact that you curse them a wonderful life, it does not spoil and do not improve the quality of your. Do not allow yourself to think that you're the only one who can not make ends meet.

2. Understand that people do not talk about you. And do not even think

We have a strange tendency to think that others think about what we are doing, with whom we sleep and what they ate for breakfast. This is a very narcissistic, even if the main thing in it - self-abasement and self-doubt. If you allow yourself, you can build a whole alternate realities in which friends talk behind your back, in the bank she denounces your oblezshy manicure, well, a waiter in a cafe just hates you. Frankly, even if we appear in their minds, it sounds like "mmm". No one thinks about you more than you yourself. Just accept the reality that all too self-absorbed and not able to think a lot about someone by outsiders.

3. We all have concerns about the appearance of

We all have moments when you look at his sweaty face in the bar toilet and think, 'Oh my God, I look like a statue from melting wax. " Nobody likes these moments - frustrating to realize that you're not always so sexy, as their profile photo. The truth is that we sometimes take the form of a molten statue, though it seems to us that we look chic.

But even people whom we call beautiful are wacky moments in which they are caught by photographers. Remember that famous picture of Beyonce that her lawyer was trying to remove from the Internet? Even if we are beautiful now, sooner or later will appear on the face wrinkles, and should treat each other a little easier. As a child, when no one cared what you look like.

4. Stop worrying, how cool is that you do

In your life, there will always be people who will say that your new hobby, favorite band or even new curtains is not cool. We call them "Hayter", and you will face with such a lot more time. For the most part they do not even care about you. They just like something to hate. It gives them the feeling that they are somehow better than that of their unique tastes. And to be honest, we also sometimes act as such Hayter. Have you ever condemned stranger in Crocs? And who among us has not looked at the former classmate in social networks and did not smile the way she slipped on such short notice? Stop thinking that's cool and what's not, and focus on what makes you happy.

5. Forget about the people who are not worth your time,

The next time you catch yourself on that page are looking for a guy who did not invite you to the second meeting two years ago, even though you thought you were perfectly suited to each other, just stop. No, seriously, stop. This person does not suit you. I realize that every time you try to put them in a spiral in her life, you give them victory over their dignity. There are so many people who really love you and want to be in your life, not only in times convenient to them, and you ignore them, distracted by the notification on your phone. So we are changing roles with poor people! This can not be tolerated.

6. Enough to portray that parents distract you from your amazing life

No matter what you have planned for today, find at least five minutes in your hectic schedule to say "Hello" to mom and dad. Frankly, it's very little of what you could do for them, compared to how much they have done for you. Let's be honest: it is easy to remember when you need advice from a mom or maybe a couple of hundred rubles, to survive until the end of the month. Be loving and responsible daughter who gives, not only gets in the way.

7. Understand that you are the one who will live with you for life

We can spend a lifetime trying to impress others, calling his work a bit more attractive than it really is, and communicating with people who seem to be "useful". You can take only the "right" decision, and you can marvel at a family dinner, but really you should do what you really want. There will come a time when you will be left to its own, and you have to deal with all the consequences of these decisions. Then you know if the relationship has got you, is it true career built, and if it makes you happy. And where are the people you want to impress? Yes, they can not even remember your name. After all, they have their own life that they are worried.